Sex, Pornography and Eroticism

At first glance, sex, pornography, and eroticism seem to be the same thing. In fact, if we don’t want to think too much about it, they might even be, nothing wrong with that. But if we want to go a little beyond what seems like a mere semantic distinction, we arrive at a slightly deeper understanding of the differences between these terms, which, in my view, also helps to better understand human sexuality itself.

In pragmatic terms: sex is what is done/experienced, pornography is what is seen/shown, and eroticism is what is thought/felt. If we agree with these premises, we can then delve a little deeper into each of the topics.

When we talk about Sex, we are talking about everything related to the realization of sexual activity, whether in biological and physiological terms of the body, with the interaction of the genitals with each other and/or with different parts of the body or objects, the functionalities of the reproductive system, all physical activities of bodily stimulation, and everything that is part of the empirical experience of concretely experiencing sexual pleasure.

Sex is living in the present moment by being present in the moment.

When we talk about Pornography, we are mainly talking about the explicit representation of the sexual act, whether visually or verbally, with concrete images and/or the use of fictional plots, but where the main purpose is, through these representations, to stimulate sexual desire, both in the person who performs it (exhibitionism) and in the person who sees/hears (voyeurism).

Pornography is the representation of Sex in all its real and effective spectrum.

Finally, when we talk about Eroticism, we are talking, above all, about psychological contexts. Eroticism is the philosophy of sex. It’s what is in the past (before) and in the future (after) of present Sex; it’s what is implicit in explicit Pornography; and it is, above all else, what is built in the universe of imagination and creativity. Eroticism is the pleasure that does not yet exist (anticipation) but it is also the pleasure that can always exist (fantasy); it is the pleasure that is felt (sensory) but it is also the pleasure that is not felt (imaginary); it is the pleasure that is stimulated (provocation) but it is also the pleasure that is projected (desire); it is the pleasure that is revealed (experimentation) but it is also the pleasure that is discovered (surprise).

Eroticism is the pleasure that feeds on our rational (conscious), emotional (intimate) and spiritual (energetic) potential. Thus, eroticism can be understood as the concept that encompasses what sex is, beyond the physical encounter, and what pornography is, beyond explicit representation.

Eroticism is the human capacity to experience pleasure beyond instinct and to express pleasure beyond impulse.

In short, these three concepts are more different than they seem and deserve to be differentiated so that we can understand how fascinating and expansive the universe of human sexuality can be.

And if these are the starting points, what do you want to discover?...🔥

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