I think, therefore I excite!

When we talk about eroticism, in most cases, we’re talking about imagination. Even when based on gestures, attitudes, shapes, postures, or even colors, smells, sounds, touches, etc., what we’re really talking about are the psychological (and imaginary) interpretations we make of all of this.

The same elements that we may consider erotic and arousing, when interpreted by other people’s minds, can always be translated and assimilated in a completely different way—and possibly in a way that is not erotic at all.

Thus, many notions of eroticism—though there may be some generalizations due to the socio-cultural frameworks to which we are all susceptible in certain societies, eras, and contexts—reside predominantly in the constructs that each individual forms within their own consciousness.

This notion is crucial for us to understand that, in simple terms, everything or nothing can be erotic, whether we want it to be or not. But beyond this (more or less reliable) ability to make that decision (about what stimulates us or not), there is another level of our brain that we cannot understand or control so easily: the subconscious.

The power to imagine and create erotic scenarios at will is, without a doubt, an extraordinary human ability that can and should be stimulated. First, because reality is often not enough, and second, because reality doesn’t have to be.

But beware: as we open up the horizon of our creativity’s infinite possibilities, our subconscious may surprise us with ideas that can lead us into areas of great discomfort.

The origin of these ideas is perhaps the most debated topic in psychology, since they may or may not stem from experiences that shaped us in early life, from biological and hormonal impulses, from repressed feelings that turn into minor obsessions, or from other mental processes that may or may not result from experiences or simple beliefs.

This baggage from the unconscious is precisely the source that fuels our creativity. The main difference is that, when we use it while awake, it is defined as imagination, and when we are asleep, it is defined as a dream.

An erotic dream, precisely because it is not constrained by the supervision of the senses and rational thought, has the potential to be an even more exciting phenomenon than the use of imagination itself, which can even lead to involuntary orgasms during sleep.

Unlike conscious thought, which is constrained by our own limitations and/or external pressures, a dream is an empty stage where literally anything can happen. And it is on this stage that we often confront fears, shame, anxieties, and desires that are not always easy to share.

It was no coincidence that Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis, focused on the interpretation of dreams. This “free” manifestation of ideas not only reveals a great deal about how we perceive the world around us, but also about the world within us.

But rather than being taken literally or interpreted through logic, dreams provide us with clues about what drives us and what confronts us. It is an introspective space where we experience the chaos of our creativity without restraint. On the contrary, imagination is the conscious use of that creativity to shape the world to our will.

In this sense, both dreams and imagination deserve our full attention. They are unique personal representations that transcend reality. It is through this imagination that we create not only stories and works of art, but also (and above all) new ways of living, feeling, sharing, and enjoying the erotic pleasure of being alone or with someone by our side.

So, what do your dreams say about your desires?… 🔥

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